Soul Mates by Gary Hopkins
January, 2008
The idea of the "Soul Mate" suggests (to a lot of people) that there is "one" perfect person out there for everyone on the planet. This is an interesting but limited concept.
What if it was true? The reality would be that everyone that lived in a small town would have less of a chance to find their "true love" in their little corner of the world. It would then stand to reason that moving to a large city would definitely increase your chances of finding that one person. But which city? The world is a big place. The more we break it down, the more unlikely this seems to be.
According to a large number of people in the "Holistic" community, it seems that we all have a Spiritual Circle in each lifetime. A group of souls/entities (if you will) that form a group to be incarnated with, in order to become teachers to one another in this existence. This could be just a few, to thousands. Keeping in line with this, then your group would be your true "Soul Mates" for this lifetime.
I believe that this group can change in each life experience by adding or subtracting the individual personalities needed for a particular life lesson. However if we take it a step farther, with the belief that "We are all one", then it becomes obvious to us when we break this concept down to its most basic form, we should have an infinite number of choices in any one lifetime for a mate. It then becomes a simple matter of bumping into whom we are compatible with at any one given time. I also believe that this compatibility changes throughout our life as we change and grow. A person that you are attracted to at age 16, may not be the same person that attracts you at age 30.
We have proof of this in our own society in the form of divorce rates. Google this and you will surely see all the various facts and figures of divorce in our country. Some are as high as 70/80% for people on their 3rd or 4th time around (marriage).
Why would we ever do something with this high of a failure rate?? Would you get into car if you knew there was a very high chance of you crashing? Of course you wouldn’t.
Then why do people continue to seek out mates when statistically we are doomed for failure? The answer is simple. It goes back to our spiritual circle. We need the connection of spirit in order to learn and to evolve while we are here. Sometimes that means (in our perception) a brief period of time where we seemingly become something/someone else in order to see things or experience things from another point of view.
Don’t believe me? Then ask yourself this: how many times have you or someone you know took a look back on a particular relationship and said, "What the hell was I thinking?" or "I don’t know what I ever saw in that person". Starting to get the picture?
The Soul Mate idea suddenly takes on a new meaning. Although the romantic kind is the most fun (in my humble opinion) you shouldn’t discount others that you have a real attraction to. Not just the physical attraction but people that you are emotionally or intellectually pulled towards. People that you see "eye to eye’ with, and persons that you find interesting because they may have a different point of view than yours.
These are our teachers as well as our students. Embrace your spirit and suddenly your sense of loneliness diminishes. All of a sudden you are not searching and seeking because what you are looking for is already there. Once you have embraced your higher self then fantastically the illusions of this lifetime just start improving. The people that give you great joy suddenly show up. The negativity in life seems to just fade away. If you are seeking a compatible mate, then one will show up for you as well. The universe is abundant and giving. If you allow yourself, then you can have anything in it that you want.
More on this (the law of attraction) can be studied through several pieces of literature and even on DVD (the movie "The Secret" is a good example).
So, in short, if you are feeling closed off and alone. Stop looking for the "one" answer to your troubles. Often times we can find many solutions to our unhappiness if we just open ourselves up to the possibilities.
January, 2008
The idea of the "Soul Mate" suggests (to a lot of people) that there is "one" perfect person out there for everyone on the planet. This is an interesting but limited concept.
What if it was true? The reality would be that everyone that lived in a small town would have less of a chance to find their "true love" in their little corner of the world. It would then stand to reason that moving to a large city would definitely increase your chances of finding that one person. But which city? The world is a big place. The more we break it down, the more unlikely this seems to be.
According to a large number of people in the "Holistic" community, it seems that we all have a Spiritual Circle in each lifetime. A group of souls/entities (if you will) that form a group to be incarnated with, in order to become teachers to one another in this existence. This could be just a few, to thousands. Keeping in line with this, then your group would be your true "Soul Mates" for this lifetime.
I believe that this group can change in each life experience by adding or subtracting the individual personalities needed for a particular life lesson. However if we take it a step farther, with the belief that "We are all one", then it becomes obvious to us when we break this concept down to its most basic form, we should have an infinite number of choices in any one lifetime for a mate. It then becomes a simple matter of bumping into whom we are compatible with at any one given time. I also believe that this compatibility changes throughout our life as we change and grow. A person that you are attracted to at age 16, may not be the same person that attracts you at age 30.
We have proof of this in our own society in the form of divorce rates. Google this and you will surely see all the various facts and figures of divorce in our country. Some are as high as 70/80% for people on their 3rd or 4th time around (marriage).
Why would we ever do something with this high of a failure rate?? Would you get into car if you knew there was a very high chance of you crashing? Of course you wouldn’t.
Then why do people continue to seek out mates when statistically we are doomed for failure? The answer is simple. It goes back to our spiritual circle. We need the connection of spirit in order to learn and to evolve while we are here. Sometimes that means (in our perception) a brief period of time where we seemingly become something/someone else in order to see things or experience things from another point of view.
Don’t believe me? Then ask yourself this: how many times have you or someone you know took a look back on a particular relationship and said, "What the hell was I thinking?" or "I don’t know what I ever saw in that person". Starting to get the picture?
The Soul Mate idea suddenly takes on a new meaning. Although the romantic kind is the most fun (in my humble opinion) you shouldn’t discount others that you have a real attraction to. Not just the physical attraction but people that you are emotionally or intellectually pulled towards. People that you see "eye to eye’ with, and persons that you find interesting because they may have a different point of view than yours.
These are our teachers as well as our students. Embrace your spirit and suddenly your sense of loneliness diminishes. All of a sudden you are not searching and seeking because what you are looking for is already there. Once you have embraced your higher self then fantastically the illusions of this lifetime just start improving. The people that give you great joy suddenly show up. The negativity in life seems to just fade away. If you are seeking a compatible mate, then one will show up for you as well. The universe is abundant and giving. If you allow yourself, then you can have anything in it that you want.
More on this (the law of attraction) can be studied through several pieces of literature and even on DVD (the movie "The Secret" is a good example).
So, in short, if you are feeling closed off and alone. Stop looking for the "one" answer to your troubles. Often times we can find many solutions to our unhappiness if we just open ourselves up to the possibilities.
